By: Ranim Elgabakhngi
Through conflicts emotions run at such a high rate that harsh comments serve only to wound more deeply rather than to calm the parts. However, entering disagreements in silence opens up room for understanding and the bonds to endure. If at times forcing your will only results in putting more pain where it is already hurting – then leaving be your quiet power not a loss.
Pause and Breathe
One way to get relief from the sensation of pressure rising is to breath slow. By waiting, you don’t give your first reaction time to speak, thus you give yourself better choices space. On purpose pause is like a barrier to the flow of frustration and it also allows your thoughts to get up to your feelings. When air gets into the body without haste, calm is restored. If you keep words back, it is a great way of saving some interesting moments for later, and by silence you are developing even stronger replies.
Listen with Intent
Listening is most important when it precedes a response. Not only focus on what a person says, but also on how they say it, instead of preparing your words. Their perspective can be understood only if you allow it to be without responding. Deeply buried emotions are revealed when silence is maintained. Once genuine listening substitutes reacting, the discussion changes. Mutual understanding is formed even in the case of disagreement.
Express Feelings Clearly
Truth always benefits from thoughtfulness since we can get the most supportive reactions from others when we clarify our feelings and desires in a non-blaming way. Calmly recounting one’s experiences is a good way of sustaining the interaction. Being so direct takes away the element of confusion and opens up the possibility of others sharing in a similar manner. Gradually, the parties who could have challenged each other start collaborating and concentrating on common goals.
Know When to Release
Not every time, when conflicts arise, one has to confront them directly. Usually, differences that are based on conflicting beliefs or old patterns take up a lot of effort without providing any significant results. Being too attached can cause bitterness to grow, thus gradually depleting a person’s serenity. Recognizing such signs clearly allows one to create a gap and walk away respectfully. One’s mental health is preserved when letting go substitutes holding on.
Calmness in times of tension is quite a reasonable “move” because it serves both the maintenance of our relationships and the preservation of our inner harmony. Overlooking some things helps one drop the unnecessary emotional load. A person’s capability to overcome difficulties emotionally is the area of one’s development when there is release and restraint. There is space in our lives for happiness when people choose to live in peace instead of fighting against each other. It is a gesture of respect to all the parties concerned, if one prefers to compromise rather than to prevail. It is common for development to start when one takes a break.
